Wednesday, June 15, 2011

ARE YOU A BRIDEZILLA??

Meow bridezillas.. eh, brides.. hehe..

i found this article from kak IAN SHAM'S blog.. a fun read for all.. hehe..

*credit to kak IAN SHAM :)

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Welcome to the realm of the Bridezilla, where everything pink is not necessarily pretty. The fact is a bride does not really start out being a Bridezilla. More often than not, she is the regular bride who is simply concerned about the details of her Big Day! . Overly Concerned! She is usually very detail-oriented and has a personal (or worse, professional) penchant for planning.
Her huge concern about her wedding day combined with her strong need for control gradually transforms her into Bridezilla; a bride who is extremely difficult and nearly impossible to please.-IAN SHAM

Here are some tell-tale signs research by Paul Davis….
1. She will complain more than give thanks.
This sadly is a symptom of many unhappy people, but it is more visible in a bride-to-be. Brides have to deal with a lot of details when preparing a wedding. If they are not careful they can forget to be thankful for the people helping them in the process.
Even if a bride is doing it all alone, that is no reason to be unthankful. Being overwhelmed is never fun, but being thankful gets more done. Complaining is never gaining.
2. She shouts unnecessarily.
Loud, boisterous, and unruly the bride-to-be who shouts unnecessarily will become a bridezilla quickly. Noise pollution is never pleasant. Shouting causes people to hate and resist helping you. Bridezillas need friends not enemies. Help them get a grip and speak gently.
3. She is all stressed up with nowhere to go.
Stress is the quickest way to deplete your energy. Bride’s who freak out all the time will not only prematurely age and be inwardly miserable, but they will be also branded a bridezilla.
4. She cannot manage her emotions well.
Poor emotional management weighs heavily on a person individually, but it also hinders their relational capacity. Unchecked emotions gone awry will lead to irrational reactions that hurt those we most love. This perpetuates emotional wear and tear, recycling more emotional implosion and outbursts.
5. She is a perfectionist.
A perfectionist cannot be happy with a good effort, neither an excellent performance. She incessantly scrutinizes herself beyond reason, which leads to utter exhaustion. Such a person needs to lighten up and simply live.
6. She is a control freak.
A control freak has to always hover over everyone to make sure everything is done just right. According to her standards, nobody can do anything as she does. This gives her a sense of importance. Her fragile self-esteem and poor self-image necessitates that she degrade others performance so she can exalt her own and continually be needed.
7. She is very demanding.
Demanding people are usually very self-righteous and proud. They are quick to belittle others and boss people around. Such a quality immediately ruins any woman’s ability to elegantly be a lady. Pushy brides qualify for the bridezilla designation for their demanding nature.
8. She is impatient and impetuous.
Impatient and impetuous people easily anger those who would have happily helped them. Because they are easily annoyed and unable to wait for good things, they attract poor service and bad attitudes.
Remember a cake out of the oven half-baked doesn’t taste good, neither does it fully rise. If you want quality people and products, practice patience.
9. She is demeaning and disrespectful.
When you demean and disrespect someone you create an enemy immediately. Even if it is not outwardly obvious, inwardly and subconsciously he who you’ve disrespected will naturally shun you. Brides who bulldoze over everyone en route to getting what they want are sure to experience backlash and blowback in the end. Bridezillas always reap what they sow and the disrespect they endear does eventually show.
10. She worries and cries often.
Worry is interest paid in advance on something you may never own. Ninety percent of all that we worry about never occurs anyhow. Brides who endlessly worry about something going wrong subconsciously program themselves to fulfill their own internal imagery, prophecy, and neurological programming.
Crying is something anyone with a heart does. There is nothing wrong with it whatsoever. We should empathize and show compassion when someone is suffering. Crying non-stop however is a reason for concern. When a bride has gone over the edge and stepped off the cliff emotionally, psychological counseling and Pastoral ministry is recommended.
Fear can be overcome. Fear is self-centered. Love is selfless. Perfect love casts out fear. Be rooted and grounded in love, by which you can conquer any fear.
These are some subtle symptoms of a bride being bombarded with the bridezilla syndrome. Family and friends take courage as your bride (or bridezilla) desperately needs you.
Don’t hesitate to gently speak a word of confrontation to deal with your bride’s situation. You can never correct what you refuse to confront. Nevertheless use tact, tenderness, and gentleness. Like everyone, your bride simply seeks love and happiness.

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So gals, are u a BRIDEZILLA?? i guess im not, but will be one within a fews month later.. bukan bridezilla, i akan jadik MONSTERZILLA.. hahaha.. all of us will go through this phase most definitely, kalau relax jer tipu la kan.. haha..


oh before i chow, anyone care to vote (like) for me? please do so..!! ur my frennn kan.. haha. kalau tak i akan jadik super-duper bridezillah... huargh omnomnommm.. ;p


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Ok my sweethearts, till then, daaa... :D
 
 
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10 comments:

anaztasias nora aira said...

hehhehehhe nora not yet...on the way kot hahahaha

UyaRayza said...

not yet a bridezilla heheh..hopefully takkan jadi hehehe...tp ade ciri2 macam nk jadi bridezilla dh heheh

Cik Hazz said...

i'm having 60% symptoms di atas. ok kot coz i'm only 1month to go. ahaaaks~~

http://cikhazz-is-writing.blogspot.com/

choclairissa @ intan said...

hahaha i am still a bridezilla..even though pengantin basi..even for wedding adik pun..i yg kecoh2..huhuhu~~yes..i am a perfectionist especially for wedding :)

Hunny Kitty said...

tak salah pun jadik bridezilla kalau kene gaya...biasanya dah dekat2 tu kompem jadik sebab masa tu la nak stress out!! like me! wahahahhahaha.....

tumpang lalu ye dato......

LisaLisut said...

no i am not and never be hopefully! aummmmmm.yogataaaaa :)
i am not a perfectionist.more to be realistic and pasrah .heheh

A 'n' M said...

u should be meowzilla la renee..hehehehe.i guess all of us b2b are prone to be bridezilla sooner or later.hehe =)

Cik Puan Nadia said...

on wedding dulu, im not that bridezilla (kot). rasa mcm sekali je i membebel itupun sbb invitation cards. yg lain im more like pasrah and 'move on, we got lots of important things to do' :)

LisaLisut said...

cik puan nadia - i know.i baca every single day.i know u r not. :)

cik syahira (a soldier's gf) said...

assalamualaikum renee,

syira jadi bridezilla time 1 of hantaran for (majlis pertunangan) is missing . terpaksa ganti baru last weekend.

grrr.. grr..

sampai sekarang pun tak tau ada kat mana.. huhu.

phew, sabar je la. lepas ni kena extra careful. sigh.